Q&A: Why we adopt

Lots of folks want to know why we adopted in the first place and why children with Down syndrome.

Adoption was something Josh and I talked about and could see in our future, but let's be honest here, I am not as saintly as some of you think (or at all for that matter).  The long and the short of it is we adopted the first time around because we found out that I could not get pregnant. It's as tragic and simple as that (I blogged about it here awhile ago).  No saintliness here.

You might be thinking: "But you adopted a child with Down syndrome...see you are a saint!"
Well friends, adopting a child with Down syndrome was never our intention (not a saint).  We wanted a healthy infant, so much so that we paid the big bucks to adopt through a domestic private agency where the chances of a health infant are greater than other avenues of adoption. A very very long story short, we found out about Macyn and it was with heavy hearts and hesitancy that we began to pursue adopting her. Throughout the process our hearts changed drastically but that is by the grace of God and His grace alone. We began to long for a child with Down syndrome and were thrilled when Macyn was placed in our home.

 

This was placement day for Macyn 10/28/08

This was placement day for Macyn 10/28/08

Growing our family through adoption changed us something fierce, and changed us for the better. After we saw how "normal" our family can be even if created through adoption, when we were ready to grow our family again we didn't hesitate to pursue adoption.  Enter Truly (whew, what a gift!).

This was placement day for Truly 9/24/11

This was placement day for Truly 9/24/11

Then a couple years pass and we can't believe our luck that our girls are our girls.  In the years of parenting Macyn, we grow to see just how rare a gift a child with Down syndrome is.  We also learn how the majority of the human race sees Down syndrome as less than desirable.  Knowing that the Lord has shaped and molded our hearts to love people rocking that extra chromosome, we decided that we'd be fools not to adopt another child with Down syndrome.  Enter August (can someone please pinch me!?!)

In the hospital the day he was born, 12/12/13

In the hospital the day he was born, 12/12/13

So there you have it friends. 

Adoption may seem like this huge decision, maybe too big and terrifying for you. 

Don't get me wrong, it is a huge and terrifying decision, and I left out a lot of the messy details. But isn't deciding to start a family a huge and rightfully terrifying decision? You may be sitting there thinkig; "maybe I could adopt, but parenting a child with Down syndrome...too difficult!" And again, isn't parenting in general difficult.  Yes children with Down syndrome come with their own special bag of tricks making it extra tricky at times (I'll post my thoughts about that later), but when the sun sets on your extra tricky day, your kid is simply your kids.

When all is said and done, my kids are my kids, same as your kids are your kids.

Adoption is no joke. It can be very very messy, and every one is different. I'm not ignoring these facts. But I also know that family is family and love is love and if God is the God of your family and your life and you've got love in your heart to share, then by golly, adopt!